Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Pre-Valentines Day Singles Mingle

Just wanted to share an event for singles planned by my friend Alasha Bennett better know as the "Dating Mechanic.

If you are in the Hampton Roads Area be sure to check it out!!!
This will be a sell-out event so make sure you get your tickets early.  For more ticket information visit her site at

I will be there... I hope you will too!!!

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

If I am not energetic about him... He has got to GO!!!

So it has been 2 weeks and the fire is gone...  It actually went out a day or two after my first date...  Meeting someone is just like starting a business...  If it not something you are passionate about then you may need to rethink your niche.  Well I am not passionate about him so he had to go...  His lack of enthusiasm compared to my over abundance of enthusiasm just wasn't working...

How do you get to know someone when they you don't have time?  If you work FT plus have college courses M-Th at night and spend Fri, Sat, and Sun with  your brother how/when do you make time for a woman? 

I did make 3 or 4 attempts to suggest visits, outings, etc...  Every one of them got shot down...  What in the world is really going on...  Anywho...  As Jay-Z would say... On to the next one... 

Here is how the very last conversation went:

Peace and Blessings.

Friday, January 20, 2012

The Term "Dating"

I am learning that you have to be careful when interpreting how a person defines some words.  Since this is the Single Woman's Chronicles and I talk about my experiences I wanted to dissect the word "dating"...

So according to Wikipedia:

Dating is a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two persons with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. While the term has several senses, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.

Is it possible to be "dating" more than one person?  I mean do we have to put all our eggs in one basket initially?  Is it fair to the other person who may not be doing the same?  I really think these things should be discussed in the beginning because your definition of dating may not match up with the other person's definition.

One may think that they are dating you exclusively but not realize that you are exploring your options.  The real question for me is if I could truly get a good assessment of a suitable partner if I am dating more than one person...  Interestingly enough I may have to try it... LOL

Peace and Blessings

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

How much information do you share?

We are in the times where social media is very relevant in our everyday lives.  When meeting new people how much contact information do you give?  I have found myself in a place where I want to share somethings and keep somethings to myself.  I want to feel comfortable first before I let someone into certain parts of my life. (Facebook being one of them) 

I don't have anything to hide really but I do feel like Facebook gives a prospect access to my family and my friends that I may not want them to have access to yet.  Nor do I want to be blinded by obsessive searches through a persons photos to see if I can find anything that is not right... At least not at first... LOL...  I do feel a little like social media can be a distraction when trying to date.  You are almost dissected by every thing you say and/or do... 

In a past relationship my significant other asked me to unfriend every man that I dated or had a encounter with.  Was this a valid request.  I mean the fact that it didn't work out for me and the person as a couple doesn't mean that we can not still be cordial...  Is this wrong of me to think that way? 

I think once you get to a certain level of commitment then I can open up myself to sharing more of my life.  I think that is fair. 

Monday, January 16, 2012

I feel like an amatuer when it comes to dating...

     Last week I went out on a date for the first time in a while with someone who is interested in me in more than just being friends.  The date was a good experience as both of us were engaged in conversation most of the time and there wasn't to much awkward silence. 

There was a genuine attraction. 

     So as we talked over dinner, I made the comment "if we date" and this man basically stopped me mid sentence and declared that WE ARE DATING...  In shock and aww I just shut my mouth.  How dare he tell me what we are doing...  LOL  but isn't this exactly what I have been wanting?  A man who is not afraid to declare his feelings, who knows what he wants in a woman and relationship.  Lays his cards on the table and plays them at will...

     This was a lesson learned for sure... I have to let my guard down a bit.  I think my actions and words sometimes because defense mechanisms to avoid another broken heart.  It really is just me getting into my own way...  I will see what happens with this one...

Monday, January 2, 2012

Happy New Years from A Single Woman

Just wanted to post real quick to wish everyone a Happy New Year.  I do what I normally do on New Year's Eve...  I go to church!!!  I absolutely love the intimate relationship that I have with God and the fact that it is growing is even better.  So no other place I would rather be than in worship...  Since my service at church was early I brought in the new year twisting my natural hair and watching the ball drop on TV and I am okay with that.

I can say this, in 2011 I have grown tremendously.  I am more confident in my status and just overall life.  I have always had more good days than bad and I am excited to take responsibility for my actions as it pertains to my relationship status. The most important thing is for me to love myself, which I DO SO VERY MUCH... LOL

Peace and Blessings and HAPPY NEW YEAR