Which scenario would you rather be in?

Man contacts woman.....

Scenario #1 ...and introduce himself.  For about a week and a half man and woman continues to have idle chit chat via text and phone conversations...  Man does not directly say exactly what he wants from the woman so she keeps it strictly friendly.  The woman does not make any assumptions.  Man ask woman over for dinner...  After the dinner "date", woman doesn't hear from man again for a couple of days...


Scenario #2 ...and tells woman that he has been wanting to contact her for a while now.  They exchange numbers and woman hasn't heard from him since...


Scenario #3 ...and meets woman and a group of friends for a night out.  Man has a face-to-face conversation with the woman about general topics they both share interest.  Man ask woman if he can see her again.  Man follows-up with woman to confirm another meet-up.  Man and the woman meet-up the next week and man declares to the woman his interest in her.  Man gives general expectations of what he desires in a mate...



Which scenario would you rather be in?  I'm just saying....

One Man.... Two Women

Women:  If your significant other one day asked you to be in a relationship with him AND another woman would you consider it?  Is it possible for you to be open enough in your relationship to have another woman be a part of it.  Just an interesting topic that I shared recently with a friend.  If your man was loving towards you and not lacking in any way would you consider it to keep him happy? 

I can't really say that I have a solid opinion about this question.  I mean my morals and values may be significantly different from the people who engage in this practice.  I think however that if it makes ALL 3 happy then so be it...  If a man thinks that he has enough love and affection to give to 2 women and they both agree then go for it.  I know this may not be totally in-line with what I would practice in my relationship life but who am I to judge someone's actions.  I know I fall short from grace at times so I need to concentrate on what is going to make my relationship status different. 

Take me as I am...

I am sitting here in random thought about the subject of dating and meeting new people.  I use to have one of those attitudes where I felt like someone needs to take me as I am or forget you...  Well as I mature I realize that statement is totally unrealistic.  A relationship IS about give and take and compromise.  I can not expect anyone to just deal with me when I refuse to deal with myself.  Life is about growing and changing (or maturing as I would typically say).

So while I venture into this dating game again I have to always be aware of my standards and make sure that those standards are not unachievable for the men I come in contact with. 

Do opposites really attract?

I am pretty sure that everyone has heard the saying "Opposites Attract".  I am not so sure that this is a valid statement.  I am just thinking about some interactions that I have had with me who did not share the same interest as me and vice versa. 

Now I am not unreasonable.  I know that two people are not going to have everything in common but if more thing are uncommon than common someone needs to address it and probably walk away.  Trust me you will find yourself doing the things that you enjoy the most by yourself.  For example, I am a social butterfly and I enjoy doing things that allows me to be social with other people and meet other people.  I am very comfortable with meeting people that I don't know.  If I get with someone who is not social and would rather be at home and doesn't like crowds then I will find myself going to a lot of places alone because even going to a movie there are crowds and such... 

This is just a random thought that I have been having lately while meeting new people recently.

Peace and Blessings

Have I become the IF and THEN statement?

I am an I.T. Analyst in my full-time profession.  I do programming and other techie stuff like that.  I had a conversation with a friend yesterday that got me to thinking about something that I often do when writing queries to extract data from a database.  I often have to implement a If/Then Statement which means if the data meets a certain criteria then something happens.  Well I thought about this concept in a situation I recently found myself in.  Basically the man said that IF things didn't work out with what he was doing now THEN he and I could proceed.  HAVE I BECOME THE IF.... 

Often I find this is the case in dating.  Why can't people just close one door before they open another one.  It really would save a lot of time, energy, and emotions.  Never do I want to be the number 2 or the option.  Just something to think about...

Words with Friends...

I was talking to a girlfriend recently and I was telling her about some of the things I had been going through in my last relationship.  Her advise to me was to take a break from relationships and "do me" for a while.  I have a hard time with this advise because most of the last 2 years I really have been "doing me"... 

See being in a long distance relationship gave me the time to be by myself a lot.  I mean I was attached to my previous significant other emotionally to a certain point because I respected him and the relationship.  The fact of the matter however is that I was physically alone.  We didn't have date nights, watch movies, or be lazy on the couch.  We had to strategically plan our time around my children and his work schedule.  It was very difficult at times because the relationship is really not the priority.  So about every 2 to 3 months we would meet up for some time and that was even limited. 

So not saying that her advise wasn't wise but it was not for me.  I don't truly think anyone fully understands what I am thinking or feeling because they haven't walked in my shoes but I desire a companion that is in the same geographical area that I'm in.