Monday, November 28, 2011

The road not taken....

I hope everyone has had a lovely holiday if you celebrate Thanksgiving.  For me it was some much needed time off work.  Holidays are usually very hard for me.  I have this picture perfect way of celebrating the holidays in my head that just hasn't come to past yet.  Anyway, I wanted to write about the road not taken.

Usually someone has a "type" of person that they want.  I mean tall, light, dark, caring, provider, etc...  Well what if we let go of those things and take the road not taken?  I think that I may have to consider the road not taken.  There are some very nice gentlemen that have come in my life and I just didn't move forward with them because they didn't meet my "standards".  I need to be willing to bend a little.  It is cool though... The first step in the process is admitting you have a problem... LOL

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Thankful for Changes.... Change is good..

I am Thankful for Changes... Being able to be changed allows me to mature. Being willing to follow the Lord allows him to have his way in MY life.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

You say you like me but.....

Gotta hate it when someone reveals to you how they feel and the actions don't back up those feelings...  I mean he said he likes me.. (present tense)  Yet you are waiting on me to do something about it.  I wasn't really looking at him until he revealed this to me.  Once I became interested he fell back a bit...  WTH...  This dating game is not for the weak nor weary for sure.  But his actions or should I say lack there of will surely get him scratched off the list!!!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

What I am Thankful for in 10 days....

With the holiday seasons fast approaching I have decided to make this an opportunity to share some of the things I am thankful for.  Usually around this time I am sitting around with a sad face because either I am single or the person I was dating was away but this year I will turn my frown upside down.  What better way to embrace the holidays by acknowledging what I am thankful for...  So over the next 10 days I will share 10 things I am thankful for...

Day 1
I am thankful for my grandma.  She loves me unconditionally.  What I love about her the most is that she laid foundation in my life by introducing me to the love of Jesus.  If it wasn't for her guidance my relationship with God would probably be different.  I am thankful for her because she would take her last and offer it unselfishly to me or any other person she comes in contact with.  I am thankful for her strength and stewardship. 

Thursday, November 10, 2011

How do we get pass pillow talk...

When I refer to pillow talk I am referring to the talk before the act... I am finding that once the subject of SEX comes along then there is no other important topic.  I have tried to change subjects but within minutes the topic goes back to SEX.  So what do you do?  I think I am going to tell the person my intentions.  While a physical experience is great I would like to have a complete relationship which includes much more than just the physical. 

Because once we have SEX then what do we have?  Unless that was your intent from the beginning which you still have the option to say....

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Long-distance relationship pillows.... Who would have thunk it... LOL

So I ran across a blog article and video and thought this was a interesting way to stay connected with your significant other who is long distance.  Apparently you were some type of sensor when you sleep at night.  Once a person goes to bed the pillow glows and you can hear the heart beat from your lover...  Is that too much or too cute?  Coming from a person who has been in a long distance relationship I think it is kind of cool...  Anyway to stay connected with your long distance lover is great.  Here is a video showing how it works.

Your thoughts?  Peace and Blessings FB!!!

Friday, November 4, 2011

Don't send that text.... Pick up the phone...

Today I read a blog article on the Harvard Business Review website titled "Don't Send That Email. Pick up the Phone!" and while the article was geared towards business I really feel like this applies in relationship building.  Whether it be a relationship you are trying to have with the opposite sex or relationships with family and/or friends.   Technology has made it very easy to get away from actual live human interaction. 

In a previous relationship I had with a man 90% of our conversations happened via text or bbm messages.  After a while, I really grew tired of this method of communication being the primary way.  Not only because once my feelings grew I wanted to actually have live conversations but also because miscommunication happened frequently.  I can remember quite a few times where the wrong tone was picked up or the lack of response to certain messages lead to the belief that someone was upset.  After a while I really felt like I had a relationship with my blackberry instead of a man.  LOL became and acknowledgement instead of me actually laughing out loud. 

That in itself lead me to be aware of my live interactions with men that I am interested in or who are interested in me.  I know that I can get caught up in my own little life and realize how easy it is to just pick up the phone and send a text but I am going to choose to make a better effort to call and chat more frequently.  Something to think about....

Peace and Blessings

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

October Playlist....

So I have decided that I would share with you some of the songs that I play to help me breeze through my single relationship status... LOL  Many of you may or may not know that I am a huge Jill Scott fan and currently have her heavy in rotation.  Below are the songs that I have favored from her during the month of October.  I hope you share my interest.

Peace and Blessing


Lately I have been receiving a lot of feedback on my public displays of affection for the man that I was previously in a relationship.  What is wrong with expressing yourself openly about how you feel? (rhetorical)...  It is funny how people have been saying that I was SO in love and how I expressed it as if it is a crime to do so.  The simple fact of the matter is I shouldn't have to always amplify the bad stuff.  The good stuff is surely worthy of just as much praise.  It seems as though people always want to influence their preferences on me...  Whatever relationship I choose to get in, I am going to make sure that he knows how special he is in MY life by any means necessary.  If you don't agree with it... KEEP IT MOVING... LOL

Peace and Blessings