I am an I.T. Analyst in my full-time profession. I do programming and other techie stuff like that. I had a conversation with a friend yesterday that got me to thinking about something that I often do when writing queries to extract data from a database. I often have to implement a If/Then Statement which means if the data meets a certain criteria then something happens. Well I thought about this concept in a situation I recently found myself in. Basically the man said that IF things didn't work out with what he was doing now THEN he and I could proceed. HAVE I BECOME THE IF....
Often I find this is the case in dating. Why can't people just close one door before they open another one. It really would save a lot of time, energy, and emotions. Never do I want to be the number 2 or the option. Just something to think about...
We all have If's, but your definitely right, you have to close one door completely before you open another... not that he was seeing another, but he was trying to make something of himself which you should of said go for it, you want your mate to succeed because if he succeed you will benefit from his success as well, but down the line "If" he didnt, when he's the person on the couch or just a person filled with regret because he may feel he hadn't done all he wanted with his life or at least try; then the relationship may end up flopping from that, you wouldnt of wanted to stagnate the one another. You both want to try to excel, you may have reached or be where you want to be, or comfortable but you cant speak for the next person, unless they are mute/deaf and handicapped... See if his Job makes him move, would you be willing to pick up and move with him? I bet a big If would come up with you and all you have going on as well, even If it came to having a long distance relationship which seldomly works, and he had probably though of all that and probably didnt want to mess up what you have established already by you having to up and go to follow something that may not be permanent. At least the truth came out and you both did communicate. What he said If, Don't take that personal and its nothing against you, trust...
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