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Monday, June 18, 2012

Entitlement...

According to www.marriam-webster.com entitlement is belief that one is deserving of or entitled to certain privileges.

Today I come to you to discuss why some people think they have entitlement with me.  The one and only cause of this is because of me being so accommodating and pretty much almost always saying yes.  I fully take the blame to such sense of entitlement from some people.  The good thing about it on my part is that I have full control of reversing this sense of entitlement.  It may not feel good to the party receiving at first and may indeed have adverse affects on my relationships or friendships but like I have said before I am the only one who is in FULL control of my happiness. 

So me telling an friend or associate "No" doesn't mean I love you any less than I did before.  What it does mean is I love myself just a little more and no longer will be taken for granted or advantage of...  It's that simple. 

Peace and Blessings...  

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Weekend Birthday Get-A-Way...

This past weekend I decided to take my self on a mini get-a-way for my birthday...  I recently started a job with a new company so I can't take any vacation time yet...  I am limited to weekends so I decided to take myself to the Grandover Resort in Greensboro, NC.  It is not a far drive in my opinion and an ex-boyfriend introduce the place to me a while ago...

It is good to get a little secluded from outside distractions at times as I was starting to feel a little overwhelmed with being a mother and helping my family out.  During this weekend I scheduled myself a 50 min massage and a 50 min pedicure... What an amazing experience...

I also got in my car and wandered around Greensboro until I found the downtown area and ended up at the International Civil Rights Center & Museum.  I had no intentions of taking the tour but found myself compelled to do so.  That was probably the best decision I had made the whole weekend.  Although the museum wasn't robust with artifacts and such it was definitely surreal...  I would recommend that museum to anyone who ask and if I could remember the name of the tour guide I would surely make sure you got her because she was so full of energy and knowledge...  And she made sure you knew she is and AGGIE alumnae.  I don't know how many times she chanted "AGGIE PRIDE" during that tour... LOL

Most of the people who know me well know I am a loner.  I needed this weekend so much...  It gave me some time to reflect on a few things and get motivated again about this blog and some other projects I have been working on. 




Until next time, peace and blessings...

Friday, June 8, 2012

Embracing the things I have no control over...

I often use this blog as a way of venting about my single life.  I am embracing it and pretty much okay with being single.  Not ALL days are good ones but most of them are.  Lately I have really embraced the fact that I really have no control over my current relationship status.  All I can do is continue to be open to a relationship happening and eventually it will. 

I think to often we (singles) go on this journey of "finding" someone.  So it is almost like we set off on this journey searching for this person that meets some type of requirements we have set.  I have to honestly say for me it does not work out to well.  I would rather fall into a relationship with someone and it be unexpected.  In my opinion if it happens naturally then it is possible that person is meeting most of your expectations without you having to check off your requirements document. 

I find that I will gravitate to that one individual who is meeting those expectations and eventually not being open enough to allow someone else to enter in.  The transition from friendship to relationship shouldn't be difficult I believe.  If you are someone who peaks my interest enough to keep me focused on you then you just may be the winner in this rat race... LOL

Thanks for reading,
Peace and Blessings

BTW: My birthday is in 4 days!!!  :)