The Effects of An Ex

I was just sitting here thinking about the first time I heard Ex-Factor by Lauryn Hill...  I remember driving up to Richmond, VA to visit her and we discussed this song in great detail.  It is so funny how the effects of an Ex can be deeply rooted inside.  It is also interesting how some Ex's effect you more than others.  For example when I was around the age of 13-14 I had a "puppy love" relationship with this boy...  The most we could do is sit on the porch and talk or sit up on the phone late hours in the night talking.  But one thing that stood out about him is that he was very romantic in a 16 year old kind of way. (I am sure he was about 2 - 3 years older than me)  He used to hug and cuddle and sing Babyface songs to me... LOL  I still chuckle about that today...  But he showed me romance and gave me a glimpse of what I desire today.  That just goes to show you that not all luggage is bad luggage from previous relationships...

My long distance Ex taught me patience and trust and also how to let go of standards that I set which make me get in my own way.  I say that because for a long time I was pretty concrete about not being in a long distance relationship.  I, however, went against the grain and allowed myself to let go of my guard and try it out.  For a long time it worked very well.  That Ex also made me appreciate the precious time we got to spend together when we did see each other and to embrace each moment.  God knows the visits were epic...

Lastly, I would like to speak on my Ex husband and the after effects of marriage.  From that relationship I learned how to compromise, be unselfish, commitment, and the value of family.  I appreciate that from him playing the role of husband and father for the short period of time we were together.

As always these are just random thoughts of a single woman...  I hope you can relate and share in the comments...

Peace and Blessings,

Shivawn