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Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Farewell 2013.... Hello 2014...

Hi all!!!  Wanted to send a quick happy new year to all those who choose to read this blog.  I am very appreciative of your the time you take to read a glimpse of my life.  I don't mind sharing as it is therapy for me.  I see big things coming to this blog in 2014 including moving to a private domain.  I am very exited about this.  I hope for increase in 2014...

Love, Peace, and Blessings
Shivawn

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

The Effects of An Ex

I was just sitting here thinking about the first time I heard Ex-Factor by Lauryn Hill...  I remember driving up to Richmond, VA to visit her and we discussed this song in great detail.  It is so funny how the effects of an Ex can be deeply rooted inside.  It is also interesting how some Ex's effect you more than others.  For example when I was around the age of 13-14 I had a "puppy love" relationship with this boy...  The most we could do is sit on the porch and talk or sit up on the phone late hours in the night talking.  But one thing that stood out about him is that he was very romantic in a 16 year old kind of way. (I am sure he was about 2 - 3 years older than me)  He used to hug and cuddle and sing Babyface songs to me... LOL  I still chuckle about that today...  But he showed me romance and gave me a glimpse of what I desire today.  That just goes to show you that not all luggage is bad luggage from previous relationships...

My long distance Ex taught me patience and trust and also how to let go of standards that I set which make me get in my own way.  I say that because for a long time I was pretty concrete about not being in a long distance relationship.  I, however, went against the grain and allowed myself to let go of my guard and try it out.  For a long time it worked very well.  That Ex also made me appreciate the precious time we got to spend together when we did see each other and to embrace each moment.  God knows the visits were epic...

Lastly, I would like to speak on my Ex husband and the after effects of marriage.  From that relationship I learned how to compromise, be unselfish, commitment, and the value of family.  I appreciate that from him playing the role of husband and father for the short period of time we were together.

As always these are just random thoughts of a single woman...  I hope you can relate and share in the comments...

Peace and Blessings,

Shivawn

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

No Condom - No Cookie

Situation: A man text a woman and asked her if they could have sex tonight.  The woman responds and says yes and lets the man know that he needs to wear a condom.  If no condom then no sex.  The woman never hears from the man again....

Okay this is a real topic...  Maybe too real for some people but whatever.  It's not that I don't care about you because I do, hence the topic at hand.  I am 37 and single.  In my lifetime I have been propositioned by several men to have a sexual encounter.  What surprises me is the number of men who get disgruntle by the request to wear a condom.  It is not like STD's have magically disappeared.  Matter of fact according to the CDC, data shows higher rates of reported STDs among some racial or ethnic minority groups when compared with rates among whites.   

It appears that majority of the men and women only think about not getting a woman pregnant.  Well what about getting an STD or HIV? There is no comfort level for me when it comes to unprotected sex.  Even in the best situations I have seen husbands giving their wives an STD.  Sad but true.  So if you take a deaf ear to my request to put on a condom then you gets none of this cookie...  Do your research...  http://www.cdc.gov/std/


Just Saying...

Peace and Blessing
Shivawn