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Monday, August 6, 2012

Single with kids...

I was speaking to my best friend a few weeks ago and we were talking about me attempting to date while being a single parent of a tween and a teen.  I was explaining to her about me going out sometimes and leaving the kids home because they are of a age where I feel comfortable with them being home alone for a few hours.  My best friend attempting to give me the best "advise" she could basically told me that I need to just concentrate on my children and not to worry about dating until they both were out of the house because it would have an effect on them.  Hmmm.  I beg to differ on so many levels. 

DO I HAVE TO PUT MY LOVE LIFE ON HOLD BECAUSE I AM A SINGLE PARENT?

I personally don't think so.    I think there can be a healthy balance between my parenthood life and my dating life. 

One thing I know for sure is my children DO NOT have to meet every man I date, especially when I am just casually dating...  I am NOT LOOKING for a husband off the back so it is not necessary for them to meet every single man...  Plus, how would that appear to them on my behalf? 

Another thing to note is my children have active extracurricular schedules.  Band, basketball, and friends so they are never tide strickley to the house all the time.  If I made them stay in the house all the time while I go out partying and such I believe they would start to have ill feelings.

What are your thoughts?  Are you currently in this type of situation?  How do you handle it?

Peace and Blessings.