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Sunday, February 26, 2012

Must Make Progress...

I can truly say that in the matter of self development I have truly made progress.  This relates to my relationship status because I have come to a point in my life where I don't focus so much on not having but I do appreciate the things that I have.  While every day doesn't present itself as the best days of my life I am thankful for each and every one of them.

I did however let yesterday's lack of companionship get in the way of going to an event I had been invited to for weeks.  I totally forgot.  A girlfriend of mine was performing in a comedy show at a church and I truly forgot.  I could have been at her show laughing it up but I was sitting a my dark house watching t.v. thinking about the have-nots.  I am going to learn how to redirect the energy that I had yesterday to make sure that I focus on my purpose, plan, and agenda.  I can not believe I allowed those emotions to consume me yesterday.  It's all good.  We grow from these thing and that is exactly what I plan to do.

I hope Sunday February 26th finds you all perfectly well in God's grace...

Peace and Blessings

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Saturday Night



Here I spend another Saturday Night at home chilling..  Not by choice of course but by default...  When you are single you have to get use to being alone.  While I could use this time to build my business, tonight I would love to be out at a movie or something with someone... I mean the kids are gone for the weekend and I am sitting in this empty house alone... 

Strange thing is that I have asked 2 people to go to the movies tonight and one never answered and the other didn't want to see the movie that I wanted to see and vice-versa.  I am really trying to make some lemonade out of the lemons I have been handed... 

Well that's enough for now.  I hope all is well with you...

Peace and Blessings.....

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Why my Valentine's Date never showed up?

I should be coming at you today telling all about how my Valentine's Day date went so very well and such but I can't because it didn't happen because my date never showed up and that is all I am going to say about that.

I am learning to not stay in a negative head space and to use all my experiences as learning and self-development. 

While I do not want to put anyone in a box, I will say this...  My time is so valuable.  I don't like it to be wasted.  A simple phone call during the mist of your dilemma would have eliminated the ill feelings that I currently have.  But LIFE GOES ON...
The great thing about this happening on the very first date is I know what kind of person I am dealing with and I choose not to go forward.  People only do what you allow them to do.  And this type of behavior I refuse to tolerate.

I had a conversation with a friend recently about Karma and maybe that is what has it's hand in my attempts to be in a relationship.  Karma is a B----

Lesson Learned...

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Happy Valentine's Day!!

John 3:16  For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in him shall not parish but have everlasting life.

That is the best love that I could ever receive.  I hope you and yours is having a wonderful day!!!

Peace and Blessings.

Saturday, February 11, 2012

Valentine's Day

Those who know me well, know that I am not a fan of Valentine's Day however I got asked out for Valentine's Day.  While a little apprehensive about it I accepted.  I figured I needed to come out of my little box and spread my wings to see what all the fuss is about.  I am actually flattered in a way and appreciative that someone would think of me enough to ask me out for that day.  I will update you later on how things turn out. 

Peace and Blessings

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

He made chilli....(What if there is a cultural difference?)

Okay so I went out on a couple of dates last week... The man is of Haitian decent...

Background info:
While I didn't grow up in Brooklyn per say, I did spend majority of my summers and breaks from school there as a child and pre-teen.  I remember attending a day camp named Get-Set Day School and I remember going there for Kindergarten.  This school was managed by west indians/haitians.  Now while I don't remember anything traumatizing happening I do remember the teachers being rather direct and some just down right mean.  And during that time they didn't spare the rod as this was a normal practice in school during that time (rulers hitting hands and legs).  At any rate, this has left an everlasting impression on me as I am 35 now and still have vivid memories of that place.

So back to the date(s)...  They were great... 
The first night... we met up at a club and he was attentive and chivalrous, which is always a plus...  He was well groomed and dressed and his cologne was perfect.  Even over all the noise and music we had a decent conversation.

The second night...  We watched 2 redbox movies and he cooked Chilli (pictured below)...  I appreciated this night as it allowed me to really have a conversation with him and see where his head is at.  Remember he is Haitian so there is a slight delay in me translating some of what he is saying but I am able to follow him...  He seems to have it put together..  He is currently serving in the military with plans to get out in September...  He says he is going to school full-time to become a physicians assistant and will not be working the first year of school. (side-eye)  And has plans to work PT the rest of the time in school... Another thing that was revealed is his smoking habit.. Although I have never seen him smoke he did tell me that he does smoke cigerettes sometimes when he drinks. (side-eye,again) But I couldn't tell as there wasn't a hint of the smell in his place or on his attire...  So all was well this night and I went on home feeling pretty darn good with another successful encounter...



The third night...  We met for drinks at a local bar and had a few appetizers and drinks...  Although I do have a great time with this man my gut is telling me to just remain friends with him... 

After thought:
There is a lingering thought that the traditional haitian is gonna rear its head out eventually.  From what I understand haitian men are controlling, possessive, and have a wandering eye with no shame about it...  I do want to give this man his fair chance but seriously have reservations about him....


Peace and Blessings

Thursday, February 2, 2012

I will never understand....

I will truly never understand why someone just stops communicating without explanation.  I can see why people put up barriers to their hearts because who really wants to put themselves out there just to be let down so rudely.  Then I have to think about KARMA...  Maybe it is just that.  As I have in the past done this...  I have just stopped communicating with someone for various reasons without offering them explanation. 

My second thought is people tend to speak to soon.  They express emotions and/or feelings that they may not truly feel because they haven't had a chance to fully get to know the other person.  Then when something triggers a "side-eye" they just back off without explanation.  I am not cool with this and I am learning for MYSELF to let the other party know exactly why I am making the decision to no longer communicate with them. 

Life teaches us really hard lessons and I can say that this lesson in love doesn't get easier with age.

So since this is a situation I am going through right now I sit here and wonder if I should try to get a reason for the lack of communication or just let it go...  I want to know so that I can learn from it or just see what was the trigger that turned him off...  Not that I would change anything about me unless it is something that I can grow from but just to have peace of mind... 

Well that's about all I have to say about that...

Peace and Blessings