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Friday, June 18, 2010

A single woman ask "What if he or she doesn't reciprocate?"

So as most of you already know if you follow my blog, I messed up my relationship... Well we have been communicating lately and I feel so good about it... There is really no guarantee on reconciliation but shoot it is a start. Well today I was thinking about what happens when you tell a person how you are truly feeling and they do not reciprocate. What I mean is that they don't return the gestures...

I find myself telling him that "I miss him" and "I love him" because those are the feelings that I have and I want him to know it. I don't do it expecting him to return the favor but I do wonder if his feelings have changed because he doesn't say anything back. Now my guess is that he doesn't want to give me any false hope of a possible make up. But that is just my thoughts. The thing that he makes clear to me is that he is not making any sudden decisions and will not rush back into a relationship with me. This surely leaves a shady area of grey because he may just be considering NOT reconciling... Which would totally suck...

Anyway... I just got a lot of things on my mind in regards to this situation and I don't know exactly what to do... Guess this is the test that I have to go through.

Friday, June 11, 2010

A take on overcoming conflict...

I thought this was a interesting video I found on youtube... How do you overcome conflict in your relationships....



Blessings....

Pre- Birthday Praise Break!!!

I am just thanking God today for allowing me to almost see another year... Tomorrow is my 34th birthday... ***Stomping My Feet***

So in celebration of Gods grace and mercy on me... I would just like to share this praise break...



What a message... Giants do die... The bigger they are... The harder they fall!!!

Be Blessed.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

A single womans take on "The One"....

This weekend I spent some time with two wonderful ladies. We spent majority of the evening drinking wine, eating, and talking about men and relationships. One thing that was discovered during our talk or what we came up with was that when you find the right mate it is easy... There is no judgements. That person loves you for being just the person you are.

It is so easy to love a person that is not going to judge you and have you taking a second look at yourself when you are around them. Situations and time spent with that person just flow. You laugh and smile and just have that warm feeling on the inside. It doesn't matter how much time or space that you have in between each other, there will be a connection.

But what we also realized is that we have to stop looking for the person that we think is right for ourselves. I mean I had a list of things that I wanted in a man... Tall, Bald, Athletic, Outgoing, etc... But those are the things that I wanted and when I found that type of man they were surely lacking internally. Mostly lacking in commitment. Another thing that I realized is that I have to look inside myself and see what about me that attracts the men who do not want to commit or who are unavailable... Still soul searching on that one...

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

A Womans Big Mistake

Ok so we ask God to send us the mate and he does... God sends you just about everything you ask him for and then some... Then the unthinkable happens... You mess it all up. You get in your own way to make that person leave you or you ask them to leave. But deep down inside you know it is a mistake... Unfortunately, people are not like God and will not give you second and third and fourth chances... In my most recent experience, I have learned that I need to really think about the consequences of my actions. So I have messed my relationship up by not talking it through, by not thinking, and just reacting to my gut... When indeed I am just acting on emotions... The kicker is that this is not the first time that I have allowed my emotions to dictate my actions with this person. One thing about words, you can not take them back...

Why do women do this? Why did I do this? Get in my own way. My problem is that I try to protect my heart from hurt but this hurts even worst than what probably could have happened and it is my own fault. I have lost the one thing besides my children that has made me happy over the last couple of months. And it seems that no matter what I do or say there is no getting him back. Lifes lessons are a hard dose of medicine to swallow...

What I am learning is that I have to always continue to work on me and how not to let my emotions control the wheel. I have learned what it has felt to be loved with ones whole heart and not some fake it till you make it love... I just hope that I am able to capture that feeling again before I leave this earth.