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Friday, January 22, 2010

A Single Woman's Friday Night...

Ok so it is Friday and the workday is slowly coming to a end... When there is rain and cold weather this single woman wants to be cuddled up with a boo... So now I sit counting the minutes until the clock climbs down to me getting off work and I go home and get comfy on my couch and watch tv for the rest of the evening... I am so over that but what is a single woman to do...

I know I am single by choice and not by force but I can't just choose anybody to be with because I am lonely. These are the test of times for real. Normally, if it was fair weather, I would take myself out... But it is cold and rainy... Maybe I shouldn't let that stop me... Mr. Right could be out there waiting too.

Thursday, January 21, 2010

A Single Woman's take on confidence...

I have run into a lot of men in my short adult life and I know for sure that I am attracted to a confident man. When I say confident, I mean a man that knows what he wants and has no problem being a man. I don't want a man that is going to be intimidated by my personality and who is able to hold a solid conversation with me.

I have met men that tell me they can only be truthful and open with me when they are drunk or via text because there is something about being in front of me that intimidates them. Such a turn off... To me these men can not handle the truth themselves. I am a pretty blunt person so I say what I feel... Tactfully of course... Yet these men still want to date me... What in the world is that about?

I know that I am not all that nor do I pretend to be but come on there has got to be something better out there than that... I think confidence is the least that I could ask for from a man. What are your thoughts??? If any...

Monday, January 11, 2010

Who's in charge anyway.....

Really can not get my thoughts together right now so this is me just typing from off the cuff...

I am observing that when dealing with trying to pursue a relationship with different men, I have to do much more than before.... I know a man who lives approx. 20 mins away from me but over a bridge and when he ask me out he ALWAYS expects me to drive the distance to his home instead of coming my way... As I really sit here and think about it I can count on one hand how many times he has visited me as oppose to me going over there... What ever happened to the thrill of the chase?

Even in sexual situations, I am seeing a lot of men wanting a woman to come on to him... I am not saying that there is anything wrong with that what-so-ever but why does it now have to be all the time? Why have the roles changed? I may be living in a dream world but I would love for a man to "court" me... I want to be "submissive" not "aggressive"... I am not saying that I want to be barefoot, in the kitchen, having a whole bunch of babies but I so love the thrill of the chase.... Even some of the long distance friendships I have had, the man is always asking when will I be visiting them... WTF!!! I have 2 children in tote, you have none... Guess it doesn't matter anymore and a man is only gonna try to do what a woman has or will allow him too... Food for thought...

I don't have HIGH expectations because I have been single long enough to have a sense of independence... But I sure would love to be involved with some one who is chivalrous...

Thursday, January 7, 2010

A Single Woman's take on Long Distance Relationships

So I have been on a few online dating websites previously and met some interesting men who do not live near me. I have connected with a couple and recently one in particular. So in effort of trying something out of the box I decided a few months ago to pursue a casual relationship with a man out of state. Man, it was great to connect with someone who I really could connect with and had a lot of the same interest. We decided that we would see each other at least once a month and we met in a central location. In the beginning it worked out well but the more I got to know him the more I wanted to see him..... The situation became so frustrating because after a long days work, I would want to come home and be able to ask him to come visit or whatever...

For a while we would get on the webcam and see each other and play some "adult games"....LOL I guess after a while the web chat got old because we stopped chatting online and mainly text or Blackberry messenger. Again I was frustrated with the situation as I would have liked it to grow into something but just couldn't find a way to get pass the distance. So eventually I made the decision to let that go. The sad part is that we were great friends prior to pursue a relationship and now everything is awkward...

So my take on long distance relationships is that they do not work. At least not without a solid foundation... What are your thoughts?

Friday, January 1, 2010

A Single Woman's New Years......

Happy New Year to all who are reading this blog... I hope that 2010 and beyond is all that you desire it to be.

As for me, I am living my life like it's golden... As usual I brought in the New Year in church. It was a great experience. Also, as usual I spent it alone but I am okay with that. I have reflected and I realize that I have spent the last 4 - 5 New Years or more alone. Well not necessary alone because I was with my wonderful church family but I am saying unattached. I did mention to one of my male friends that I was going to church for New Years and he was like, have fun because he wouldn't be there... Amazing...

At any rate... After the service was over I came home and had a glass of wine and bought a pair of shoes from online.... Retail Therapy is always great!!!

Just wanted to add a quick blog to wish everone a great new year.... My pastor said that 2010 is a year for RESTORATION, SATISFACTION, and CONFIRMATION.... Be Blessed

SN:My grammer may be off because these are random thoughts and I have relaxed the jargon.